Now I know I can feel all the feelings. I can live in the moment: It’s all ok. It’s all valid.
Author: Ran, aka the Hospitable Alien
Harvest Moon post: Who are you beyond what the world tells you?
And if I let go of these mementos, what will remind me of who I am?
Being grateful things aren’t worse doesn’t mean they aren’t fucking hard
She is smiling at me, her eyes shining through the grime on her cheeks,but I’m the one that craves absolution.
I am learning to live in the “in-between” times.
I am learning to live in the “in-between” times.
The Book is Out!!
I have finally released a book into the world!
OK 2023, let’s make a deal
2023, I’m thinking I’ll call the shots. I pick the music and you follow.
Why giving up hope is good for your mental health.
I desperately need healing this year. I need something to go well. I need it to work out. I need hope.
Flailing in the dark
Darkness, like grief, a diagnosis, or an uncertain future is disorienting. We reach our arms out blindly hoping to touch something that will ground us.
Fall: how to survive the grave season
I once spent the night in my own grave.
Do things that scare you
Think back to a time when you were afraid of doing something. Did you eventually do it? Who or why not? How has that affected you?
How do you cope when life just sucks?
You don’t have to be struggling with your mental health to have days that suck. But that doesn’t mean they all will, that you do or that life does.
How does mental health stigma affect you?
The stigma attached to mental health conditions is so pervasive that people who suspect that they might have a mental health condition are unwilling to seek help for fear of what others may think. Experiences of stigma and discrimination is one of their greatest barriers to a satisfying life. Family and friends are also affected by mental health stigma.
How I learned to wait
The thing about waiting is it feels you are at a standstill while everyone else seems to move forward without you. You are excluded, standing on the banks of the river of time.
Or so it feels.
Where in the spiral are you?
What if, instead of (winning) streaks, we spoke of spirals? Designed systems that did not stretch into runways, but rather spiralled upwards?
How do I stay in a space of openness and trust?
When something doesn’t turn out the way I had hoped, I feel grief: it hurts, it’s scary and it’s terribly disappointing. And it pisses me off.
When the going gets tough, how do you get going?
Okay. Here goes: full disclosure time.
Keep dancing
When the way is dark and the wind is cold, Keep dancing.
When the air is thin and your chest hurts, Keep dancing.
How do I stop comparing myself to others?
Been feeling very hollow today. Have been full of self loathing comparing myself to others. Feeling paralyzed. Any tips?
Could I be too attached to my dog?
The older she got, the more anxious I got. Maybe there’s something wrong with me, I thought. I just get too attached.
How do I find my purpose?
Having a purpose is like being “chosen”. And who doesn’t want to be chosen?
How do I choose when I can’t decide?
Every decision is a bet. And I am not a gambler. I like being in control. I like a sure thing. And deep down I believe that if I make The Right Decision, it will all work out in my favor.
Qarrtsiluni
How wise also to Know deeply the importance of remaining together. For interdependence is a fact, not a belief.